Rewire Your Brain for Success

Well-known therapist, best-selling author, and phenomenal speaker Marisa Peer has helped countless individuals to change their lives through the power of shifting perspective. She has used her methods to help world leaders, celebrities, and people who may live normal lives, alike. Through the use of the TED Talk partnership she has brought her techniques to the masses, specifically through her presentation entitled “To Reach Beyond Your Limits by Training Your Mind,” shared exclusively through TEDxKCS.

In her speech, Marisa shares invaluable tidbits on how to rewire your brain for success through the conscious act of selectively choosing the images and words that one may associate with events. In essence, we are the only liable limitations in our lives.The reason why we do not have the things that want out of life is because we are not using the correct words or images in order to program our minds to accept what we consider to be good. Cognitive dissonance at its finest!  Marisa goes over four key points in her explanation of how to get what one wants out of life. She breaks them down into steps that are understandable, relatable, and easy to execute. I have summarized them below:

  • Your mind does exactly what it thinks you want to do.
    • The mind acts in your best interest. It listens to the words that you use in association with a thing, and then acts upon what it perceives as your desires.
      • For example: If you are constantly stating that you need a break/vacation. Subconsciously your mind will create a scenario in order to give to you want it is that you are saying that you are wanting. It may be in the form of a headache, migraine, or the flu. However, you will ultimately be getting what you want – a break. Not ideal, however practical.
    • This is why in order to fully use the potential power of your mind, you have to be VERY specific with what you are telling your mind that you want. Down to the last detail, because whatever you tell your mind that you want, you will most definitely get.
  • Your mind is hard-wired to move towards pleasure.
    • You must link what you want to pleasure, and what you do not want to pain.
      • For Example: If you want to lose weight, instead of saying “I hate this” everytime you run a mile; start saying ” I love it, and this is what I want.” By doing this, you are reprogramming your mind to believe that you love to exercise. And, in order to maximize this message envision yourself as the person you wish to be while you are exercising. Link positive words with positive images to further emphasize to your mind that you find this activity to be pleasurable.
  • Your mind responds to two things: the pictures you create within it and the words that you use.
    • In order to get what you really want you must learn to change the images that are associated with your desires.
      • For example, if your desire is to get to know new people, visualize yourself talking to strangers. Depict how the interactions will go, and make sure you imagine a positive outcome. Tell yourself you love talking to new people.
  • Your mind loves what is familiar.
    • Learn to make what is unfamiliar, familiar. Sit in the discomfort of things that you are not used to doing. Allow your brain to realize that your act is something that is familiar to you by doing it over and over and over again.

This information has the capacity to change your entire life.Let me know if the above insight has helped you, drop a comment below.

Sincerely,

A. Nicholson

You. Create. Your. Own. Reality.

“Your body is the mirror of your mind…. Don’t change your body, change your mind…The mind can create your Heaven or the mind can create your hell…Remember you create your own reality. YOU create your own reality.”

Master Nan Lu

Life is a journey of abundance meant to be enjoyed to its fullest capacity. Life is meant to be lived through an open heart-space, maneuvering through existence filled with trust, love and vulnerability. Through this act, God provides the people, places, and re(SOURCES) to build, grow and cultivate your true nature and destiny. Life has the ability to be controlled through your mind and spirit. Through the power of intention and complete focus, you have the ability to attract your desires to you. Through daily cleansing of your mind and energy, you can pluck out the ideas and core beliefs that no longer serve you, and replace them with ideas and beliefs that will allow you to soar into life’s grandest vision of yourself. You Create Your Own Reality.

Sincerely,

A. Nicholson

Your Are Responsible for Your Life

“You are responsible for your life, and if you are sitting around waiting for someone to save you, fix you, or even help you. You are wasting your time,  because only you have the power to move YOUR life forward.”

Oprah Winfrey

Incredible words from a very powerful woman who has been a mentor-my-head for years. Her life story is riveting and emotionally-captivating in so many ways. However, the focus of my attention, for now, is on her emphasis on the idea of taking responsibility for your own life. Taking responsibility for your life-events. Taking responsibility for your emotions. Taking responsibility for the overall trajectory of your life. Taking responsibility for the effective use of your time. Taking responsibility for the way that you choose to perceive situations. And last but not least, taking responsibility of knowing when to let go of things that no longer serve you.

The act of taking responsibility is therapeutic. It allows you to reset your way of thinking and to realize that you are, and always have been, in control. It forces you to throw away the figurative mask of victimhood for the armor of victor. By taking on the burden, and gift of ownership, of both good and bad occurrences in your life, you take back your power of choice.

Life is all about choices. Your decisions determine your life outcome. Choices can be a gateway to healing or self-destruction. The choice is always yours. Choose Life. Choose Love. Choose Courage. Choose Peace. Choose to be brave and to go after your goals with reckless abandonment. Choose Yourself.

 

How Badly Do You Want It?

“A solitary fantasy can totally transform one million realities” Dr. Maya Angelou

How badly do you want to see your dreams manifest themselves into your current reality? How badly do you want to live the life that you always fantasize about? How badly do you want to actually be the person that you envision yourself becoming? In the landscape of life, dreams come a dime-a-dozen, entering into the minds of many but scarcely making it past the metaphoric four walls of the mind to escape into the freedom of our three-dimensional reality. However, what about the few individuals – in comparison to the seven billion people who inhabit earth- who actually manage to make those visions in their minds transcend into their physical world. What do they do differently than the rest? Are they smarter? Are they more attractive? Are they more savy? Possibly. But, all of those factors are not the dominant  influences that dictate success. Well then what is it, you ask? It’s simple, the determining factor of success is ALWAYS “state of mind.” What are you constantly thinking about? What are you perpetually telling yourself? What pictures are you formulating in your mind? It is the picture that you paint of yourself in your mind, that controls your perception of yourself and your overall life outcome. Patti Dobrowolski, TEDx speaker, critically acclaimed comic performer, writer, and business consultant states that the act of drawing out your vision on paper through colorful, impactful, and compelling imagery, has the power to further engrain your desires into your brain thus making you take radical action towards Its their attainment.

In the TED Talk entitled, Draw Your Future, Dobrowolski states that pictures are a way to trick your brain into accomplishing your goals by imprinting a picture that is so convincing it forces your subconscious mind to believe it – and start to create methods and connections toward its manifestation. As a side note, the subconscious mind doesn’t know the difference between what is imagined and what is “real,” so whatever you visualize with high emotion and conviction WILL in some shape are manner make its way into your physical reality. By drawing out your dreams you are using your imagination. Imagination is associated with the right side of the brain – the creative free-spirit counterpart of the logical critic-filled left side. The act of drawing your current state vs. your desired new reality creates a roadmap for change. The conflict of your miserable state vs. your desired state of happiness will activate your brain to subconsciously develop the steps in order for you to obtain your new life. Dobrowolski states that it only takes three bold steps to get from your current state to your desired one, and through drawing out your goals you are assisting your brain in constructing the answer to what those three bold steps are. “See it, believe it, act on it,” states Dobrowolski.

Every day you should soak in the contents of the picture of your compelling life. Once you begin to receive clues of how to accomplish this life, you MUST act on them. Your mind is guiding you through clues of insight, follow them. Whether it be calling up an old friend. Going to a new location. Or simply finding a video that provides you with knowledge of your desired area of expertise. Do it! The life that you desire is closer than you think. Patti Dobrowolski ends her TED Talk with a timeless quote by Dr. Maya Angelou, she states, “A solitary fantasy can transform a million realities.” It couldn’t have been more fitting. In summary, draw and visualize yourself into your destined greatness. I DARE YOU.

Sincerely,

A. Nicholson

 

FOCUS, BELIEF, FEELING…

Dr. D. Ivan Young, Master Certified Coach & Relationship Expert, presented an incredible TED Talk in 2015 on the topic of merging emotional intelligence with the Law of Attraction. In the talk he gave a clear definition of emotional intelligence and tied it into the area of focus and physical feeling through the body. He also shared “nuggets of enlightenment” in the field of silencing your mind to get the answers to pressing questions. Through the assistance of a higher power, he revealed, placing yourself in silence will allow you to receive the knowledge you are seeking. One of the BEST quotes that I received from his presentation was this, “That which you seek ladies and gentlemen, that which you desire, that which you long for- is equally seeking you.” POWERFUL! Right?

It is a comforting feeling to sense that all of your desires are also attracting you, just as much as you are attracting them. Whether those desires be: to go back to school, purchase a new car, buy a house, or to attract the right people and resources. Whatever! Just as much as you want them, God wants to give these things to you. However, it requires you to clear your mind, focus, and BELIEVE that you deserve what you are asking and desiring for.

One thing that I have learned, through study and personal experience, is that manifestation happens faster when the mind is clear and the heart is filled with love. Pure love. Love that holds no grudges. Love that relishes in laughter. Love that dares to dream. Love that BELIEVES that it is worthy. Love that loves in completion and perfection.

Below I have shared some tidbits from Dr. Young’s TED Talk, I hope it blesses someone.

Peace, Love & Light!

A Nicholson

  1. Emotional Intelligence: Using the Law of Attraction
    1. Emotional Intelligence
      1. To be aware of your feelings and the feelings of others
      2. To have clarity about situations/circumstances.
        1. To know why you are experiencing what you are experiencing
          1. Why have you attracted this dilemma
            1. Like attracts like- what you expect comes to you
          2. Emotion equals energy in motion
            1. The greater the emotion the more of that situation you receive
              1. Where your attention goes, your energy flows.
              2. What you consistently think about, you get.
            2. How do you start to attract what you want?
              1. Monitor your thoughts
                1. Everything that you see came from something that was once unseen.
              2. The Subconscious Mind drives the outcomes in your life
                1. Shift your paradigm of thought – trick your mind into believing that you deserve what you are desiring.
                  1. Autosuggestion is a great way to do this.
                2. Focus on the present and train your subconscious mind to manifest the things you desire.
              3. Embrace the silence
                1. In silence, you will receive the answers to the questions that you have asked.
                  1. When facing dilemmas, problems, or issues.
                    1. Get quiet, meditate, and ask God for the answers.

“As you feel, as you believe, you will receive.”

– Dr. D. Ivan Young

 

 

How YOU Choose to See Determines Your Functionality

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“Your mind is like a flower bed, and whatever you feed your head determines all your fate. Whether you blossom or you suffocate. Peace is like a pattern, where every angle matters. And how you choose to see determines your functionality.”

-Allen Stone, Love

I have been attempting to find this song for the last few weeks. The lyrics are so simple, yet so true. Your mind is truly a reflection of all of the thoughts that you have been having. Whether they be thoughts that are enriching, or otherwise. Your surroundings will more than not, show you exactly what you have been consciously or subconsciously desiring or…. fearing.

Life is a choice. You can choose to be happy. You can choose to be melancholy. You can choose to be angry. You can choose to be the proactive factor in your mood, a factor that dictates your behavior. It is your choice to make each and every single day. Granted we all may stumble or even fall in the quest to control our emotions. However, the beauty in this is that we receive a chance to start over with each awakening morning. This reset button is your gift. It is your gift to replenish what has been lost, and to recover what you wish to gain and build upon.

Today, and tomorrow, choose to heal yourself by renewing your mind with thoughts that empower you. You are the protagonist and narrator of your own story. This story is called your perspective.

Sincerely,

A. Nicholson

“Novice to Master” Series Spotlighting Lisa Nichols

Lisa Nichols

“When the student is ready the teacher will appear.”

–  Lao Tzu

The “Novice to Master” series provides a specific in-depth view into the expansive world of self-development through the view-lens of a featured accomplished expert in the field.  This week’s focus will be the art of storytelling; how to develop and polish your story, while maximizing the experience of your audience through your words.

Lisa Nichols a world-renowned motivational speaker, media personality, and Corporate CEO executes a phenomenal presentation surrounding the art of storytelling by gifting her audience with step-by-step methods of how to draw listeners in through honing-in on the relevancy of sharing one’s truth through authenticity. Through a webinar produced by Mindvalley, a learning experience company focused on components of self-development, Nichols provides priceless gems of how she personally overcame the struggles and hardships of her life in order to become the personal-development guru she is today. I initially discovered the work of Nichols in 2013, her strong advocacy of the power of affirmations along with her magnetizing personality caused me to quickly become a fan of her platform. Through the lessons provided by Nichols through her “How to Market Yourself by Telling Your Story” webinar,  I dare to say that you may become a fan of her work as well.

Through the webinar entitled “How to Market Yourself by Telling Your Story” featuring Lisa Nichols, Nicholas starts by emphasizing the importance of one’s story, she states “Stories allow you to understand your why.” She then elaborates further announcing the acronym USP, Unique Serving Proposition, which Nicholas compares to a Global Positioning System (GPS). A USP lives in the story of its owner, it defines your purpose and who you are meant to attract with your story. Nicholas also provides a descriptive metaphor to further resonate her main idea to her audience, stating “If content were bricks your story would be the cement that holds your content together.” Your story provides the adhesive connection to the overall purpose of  the tangible or intangible service that you are presenting to the world.

Moreover, Nichols also presents practical methods and guidelines to help one to develop a story that reaches a specific targeted audience. She shares the following steps pertaining to guidelines:

Be Willing to Take Risks: Be open to speaking your truth and owning it from a standpoint of victor not victim. Lisa Nichols uses the perfect quote to summarize this  point, “My story is my fuel not my fortress.”

Be Clear and Concise: Give concise advice and follow-up  with a descriptive story that allows audiences to envision the situation. Utilize your body to unpack the story – what were you thinking, feeling, doing (Who, What, When, Where, Why).

Use Your Story As a Catalyst: Your story is only the beginning to what you have to offer, build your skill sets as a leader, business consultant, life coach…etc. Allow your story to be a gateway to additional avenues of access to you.

Use the “Great Dip” Method: Utilize the V-scenario, introduce your audience to the “Big Me” ( the person you are after you have overcome all of your obstacles – the polished you). Then bring your audience down into the valley of the adversities that you once faced, allow your audience to connect with you through your transparency. Lastly, bring your audience back up to you, through showcasing your why . What is your inspiration for why you do what you do? What was the reason for your struggle, the cause of your triumph and your open arms to help others? Relate the above points back to your audience.

Lisa Nichols often speaks of herself as “a regular woman with an extraordinary drive.” She often shares the point of us all possessing the power to find our own sweet spot to thrive and succeed. The key to our success and abundance is unlocking our own personal story. We are all great and powerful beings, some of us may just need the reminder.

Sincerely,

A. Nicholson

© A. Nicholson, 2013-2016. All Rights Reserved.

You Have the Power to Speak Your Life Into Existence

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“And all things, whatsoever ye shall ask in prayer, believing, ye shall receive.”

-Matthew 21:22 (KJV)

Your words have power. Your Words Have Power. YOUR. WORDS. HAVE. POWER. The power of the tongue is a mighty tool that has biblical merit. For example, “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruits thereof.” – Proverbs 18:21 (KJV). The words that we speak create our reality. The thoughts we think create our overall vibrations, and as a result attract specific people, resources, and situations into our lives. This is why it is imperative to be extremely specific with the words that you say, in regards to what you want. In fact, one should only exert their focus and energy upon the things that they wish to make a part of their reality, bypassing all scenarios and situations that do not align with the envisioned outcome, ” Finally, brethren, whatsoever things are true, whatsoever things are honest, whatsoever things are just, whatsoever things are pure, whatsoever things are lovely, whatsoever things are of good report; if there be any virtue, and if there be any praise, think on these things.” – Philippians 4:8 (KJV).

Moreover, another important component to this equation is also the strength and magnitude of one’s faith. “Truly I tell you, if anyone says to this mountain, ‘Go, throw yourself into the sea,’ and does not doubt in their heart but believes that what they say will happen, it will be done for them.” – Mark 11:23 (NIV). Let’s put this into more practical terms, shall we? If y0ur words were a jack-hammer…why am I using a jackhammer for this analogy? Because I want to, that’s why. So as I was saying, if your words were a jackhammer, your faith would be the driving electrical force behind it. Your faith would be giving the metaphorical jackhammer, that is your words, all of the back power that they would need in order to manifest your desires, goals, and overall wishes.

In addition to biblical confirmation, there are a wide variety of theories, books, and well-known speakers that subscribe to the unlimited power that words, thoughts, and faith contain. To illustrate, Napolean Hill – an American author and early producer of personal-success literature- wrote a wildly successful book entitled “Think and Grow Rich.” In the book, he highlights keys that are  significant for the attainment of wealth and success. Can you guess the most important factor? You guessed it…Faith. In fact, it was so important that he dedicated an entire chapter to explain his philosophy surrounding it. In his book Hill states,”Faith is a state of mind which may be induced, or created, by affirmation or repeated instructions to the subconscious mind, through the principle of auto-suggestion.” In the above excerpt, Hill alludes to the idea that the subconscious mind is willing to adopt whatever “truth” you give it. Therefore, taking on what is given as truth and acting upon those ideologies. This is a concept that Earl Nightingale – an American radio personality, speaker, and author who submerged himself and his work in the area of human character development- also cosigned. Nightingale once stated, “Whatever we plant in our subconscious mind and nourish with repetition and emotion will one day become reality.”

As if more evidence were required to support this theory, I’ll present to you the  phenomenal life and career of the late Octavia Butler. Butler was one of the first African-American women to successfully tap into the literature realm of science-fiction. Not only is her work critically acclaimed, she has also won various awards for her writings. In an article featured in Blavity, written by Kiara Collins, entitled ” Author Literally Wrote Her Life Into Existence,” the piece in detail depicts how Butler journaled her major career milestones before they happened. Butler utilized the power of speaking/writing her future into existence and stepped out on her faith. An excerpt from the article states, “What Butler wrote as a verbal vision board then, would later come to fruition and hold true to the idea that the work she was doing had a purpose and would fall upon yearning hands.” To add, Butler wrote specific desires such as “I shall be a bestselling writer,” “My articles will go onto the above lists whether publishers push them or not,” “My books will be read by millions,” she would also seal the deal upon her written affirmations with the phrase, “So be it, see to it.” Needless to say, Butler fulfilled the prophecies of her writing, and then some.

The main purpose of this post is to exemplify that the power of words are not limited to anyone. Before Hill, Nightingale, and Butler were well-known public figures they were all normal human beings with a desire and deep-set faith in their visions coming to fruition. Everyone has the ability to utilize their words, thoughts, and faith to make appear that which they will. The accomplishments of the above individuals have inspired me to dig even deeper within my determination, consistency, and focus, to bring to actualization the many goals, ideas, and desires that I have continued to place upon the metaphorical back-burner. The time for change, personal development, and a shift in perspective is now. My beginning goals are as follows:

  1. Read at least one book per week in the area of positive thinking and overall brand and personal development.
    1. Book: The One Week Budget by  Tiffany “The Budgetnista” Aliche; Completion Date: August 28, 2016.
  2. Create a mastermind group to help hold me accountable with my goals.
    1. Completion Date: October 24, 2016.
  3. Revamp my personal branding website.
    1. Completion Date: October 1, 2016.
  4. Register my business with the appropriate authoritative establishments, as a result securing the required legal documentation to operate as a separate entity.
    1. Completion Date: November 1, 2016.

The Acquisition of Self-Confidence

“I am the master of my fate. I am the captain of my soul.”

William Ernest Henry

Self-Confidence

We each play a pivotal role in the development and outcome of our lives. Our thoughts, words, actions, and habits are all cardinal pieces to our puzzle of success; however we choose to define that term. A quote, that has been arguably associated with many of history’s greats for world and societal change- ranging from Loa Tzu to Margaret Thatcher, states “Your beliefs become your thoughts, your thoughts become your words, your words become your actions, your actions become your habits, your habits become your values, and your values become your destiny.” This quote resonated with me profoundly because it reaffirmed my core belief, which is we are a product of our thoughts, and our thoughts alone. Our self-confidence or self-deprecation determine our self-view and, as a result, gradually oozes out of our pores into the spaces of our external society. Thus, providing society with a blueprint of how we wish to be perceived and treated. Therefore, if we have the power to possess such an impactful part in our experience of reality, then we are truly the masters of our lives. Our core beliefs about ourselves, our abilities, and our worth, dictate our destiny.

I believe that one of the greatest boxers to ever grace the ring, Muhammad Ali, is a prime example of how our world can change through the process of our thoughts and words. Ali in his career peak stated, “I am the greatest. I said that even before I knew I was. I figured that if I said it enough, I would convince the world that I really was the greatest.” Ali exemplified the power of belief, regardless of his outside circumstances he refused to adhere to what his eyes saw, and committed himself to the picture of success and power that was imprinted along the internal walls of his mind.

Belief in self and self-confidence are interchangeable descriptions that have the capacity to transform the life of its possessor. Dr. Ivan Joseph, former Head Coach of the Ryerson Rams men’s soccer team – who is associated with helping the Rams to post their highest team results in their history, defines self-confidence as the “ability to believe in yourself to accomplish any task, no matter the odds, difficulty, or adversity.” Dr. Joesph also provides three beneficial tips towards building one’s confidence in self and abilities, they are summarized below:

  1. Repetition: Remember practice makes perfect. A situation or ability can not be novel, there has to be a level of comfort associated with a task or skill in order for true mastery to take place. (See: Malcolm Gladwell’s 10,000 hour rule).
  2. Execute Positive Self-Talk: Thoughts influence actions. You have to be your biggest advocate, affirm yourself through your words. Tell yourself how great you are. Tell yourself how success you will be. Tell yourself how powerful you are. Write a letter to yourself declaring your greatness, and remind yourself of all or your past accomplishments. Highlight your value, what has worked for you in the past, and your overall awesomeness. Lastly, remove yourself for negative spaces.
  3. Interpret criticism through a filter. Self-confident people interpret criticism the way they choose to. Accept the advice that seems solid, constructive, and applicable, and throw away the useless “materials”.

Check out the entire video of Dr. Ivan Joesph’s TED Talk below.

Self- confidence is the difference between success and failure, happiness and despair, and living a full life or surviving off of the scraps that are thrown your way. In life, You are the only one that can make you happy, YOU are the only one that can pave the way for your dreams and aspirations to take place, and YOU are the only one that can hold yourself back. Life is a journey meant to be enjoyed and cherished, strategically outline your path to your destiny, and watch it unfold.

Sincerely,

A. Nicholson

30 is NOT the new 20: An Introspective Take on the Defining Decade

Don’t be defined by what you didn’t know or didn’t do, your deciding your life right now.”

– Meg Jay, PhD

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               Stagnation is not a sign of progression, but a depiction of procrastination. Any information that supports a delay in development and self-growth is not advice of benefit, but of destruction. As a God-created being of the universe it is our right to move forward in life towards the acquisition of new opportunities, experiences, and relationships. The concept of having a decade – a ten year period of life- to partake in aimless and meaningless behavior is absolutely absurd and out of the question. The phrase “30 is the new 20,” stands out to me as a detrimental falsehood, that in the era of the new millennium is sometimes treated as truth. In a recent TED Talk, executed by psychologist Dr. Meg Jay, she talks about the definitive factors of an individual’s 20’s. I support this idea one hundred percent. As a twenty something, I have earned a degree of higher education, worked in various internships in different areas of the United States, and through self-reflection and thought gained a better grasp of who I am as a person both personally and professionally. As an introspective individual, I have experienced the benefits of “putting in work” early (through self-development, reading, meditation, educational outlets….etc.) with the expectation of acquiring my desired outcomes (manifested as the achievement of my goals and aspirations) at a sooner date.

Dr. Jay covers crucial points supporting her theory of 20’s being a foundational decade in one’s life, stating “Claiming your 20’s is the simplest most transformative thing for work, happiness, and love.” In today’s society, twentysomethings make up 15 percent of the US population, that’s approximately 50 million people, in my opinion that would be entirely too many people to just be walking around unfocused, un-bothered, and unguided. According to Dr. Jay’s research, the 20’s are a critical period of adult-development, especially from a scientific standpoint. In her research, Dr. Jay discovered that the human brain caps off its second and last growth spurt, before rewiring itself for adulthood, in this particular decade of life. Therefore, our twenties may be our last chance of fine-tuning ourselves before our personalities, habits, and life-perspectives are pretty much set in stone – to divert a minuscule inch, an article in the NY Mag’s Science of Us, entitled “How Much Can You Really Change After You Turn 30,” also supports this claim while offering an alternative perspective. The article by Melissa Dahl, states that while basic personality traits and behaviors are established by age 30, it is still possible to act against pre-established nature through how one proactively decides to express those traits or behaviors. For example, an individual who is usually shy and reserved in public settings, can (with practice) CHOOSE to act in the opposite manner – however this isolated act can hold negative physiological effects.

Our twenties are a decade of infinite possibilities, if we choose to see them in this way. There are three things that Dr. Jay suggests in order to move forward in claiming the definitive decade, and they are as follow: Get identity capital, add value to your life through investing in your future-self; Reach out to weak ties, don’t just associate with people your age – get out and seek mentors- the next job or opportunity may be in that connection; and start selecting your family (future spouse, long-lasting friendship) now – if you are in a relationship (friendship or romantic) that is not working, GET OUT. Dr. Jay emphasizes the importance of being intentional with love, she states “Consciously choose who and what you want, rather than making it work with whoever happens to be choosing you.”

As a twentysomething now is the time to walk boldly in the direction of goals and aspirations. The time to start reading is now. The time to learn how to self-advocate and negotiate contracts and salary quantity is now. The time to explore is….yep you guessed, now. I wish you all the best in your pursuits, and I will see you at the top!

Sincerely,

A. Nicholson

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