MY 23 Bday Pact

The arrival of another year coincides with the concept of becoming one year older, wiser, and more experienced. It is an exciting thought for me to compare the individual that I am now, to the person that I once was five years, three years, or even one year ago. The idea of growth is something that is to each her own; a person can grow as little or as much as they please. One thing that I have found to be an axiom is that growth is a choice; from any perspective ranging from emotional to intellectual. The only definite change-agent in anyone’s life will be themselves.

I say all of this in order to set the background for this miraculous day; on July 12, 1990 I entered into this world. I obviously had no expectation or conscious thought of the life that awaited me, or clue of the ideal life that I wanted. However, now that am 23 years grown I know a little about life; and a lot about the personal power that I have to create and gravitate the things that I want into it. For the past month and a half, I have been glued to the concept of positive psychology. A method that focuses on emphasizing the positive aspects of life to the fullest extent; as oppose to pointing out the problems and issues. Now, I definitely understand the idea of not simply putting a ban-aid onto an open incision. In order for any type of healing to occur we must first deal with the root issue and clean it out thoroughly, so that there are no remaining elements to fester. But, I do believe that through pin-pointing the roots of your emotions and working on getting past them; while simultaneously living a life of continuous gratitude for both the good and bad encounters, a life of freedom will manifest.

So on this day, my fab and fierce 23rd Bday I am so excited for the emotional, intellectual, financial, relational, and favorable breakthroughs that I am openly receiving. My perspective of my life and the world is changing for the better and I will follow the steps that I have made for myself, in order to continue my positive transition.

  1. Live life in gratitude. Be thankful for the things in life that I do have, and find the blessings in the mishaps.
  2. Take time to assess what it is that I really want out of each situation, and strategically plan on how to possess it.
  3. Worry less about outward sources of opinions, and concentrate on the validity of my authenticity.
  4. Go after every opportunity that offers the chance of positive change.
  5. “Love the person that I am completely; even if it makes others uncomfortable.” This is a quote that I was inspired by from the incomparable Janelle Monae, and it rings true. Therefore, I will embrace and showcase the boldness, strength, confidence, left-field opinions, and boisterous characteristics that are the “pieces of me”. As one of my favorite singers voiced, at all times you have to be good to yourself; thank you Ledisi.
  6. Never be judgmental of anyone! Get to know the core of a person before using discernment to evaluate their right be in your life or not.
  7. Laugh more, do not take life so seriously. I have worked my way up the latter of various organizations; now its time to relax and allow my experience to speak for itself. I have nothing to prove anymore.
  8. Share more of the essence of who I am with others. Be goofy, loud, and even obnoxious if it is how I am feeling at the moment, act upon it. Those who judge are really fighting with their own internal struggles.
  9. Embrace life to the ultimate FULLEST! I will open myself up to the aspect of meeting new people, living new places, daring to be bold and living outside of the box of norm ( dare I say to be eccentric), express how I feel when I am feeling it, and live a life of no regrets.

This is my pact to myself, and I will hold myself accountable for following through with it completely!

A. Nicholson

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Step Out on Faith……and LOVE!

Sometimes it is easier to sit still, and remain in the same location, doing the same things, and feeling the same amount of angst and discontentment. In the majority of situations we have already trained our minds to go to the negative aspects of making a major change in our lives; instead of focusing on the freedom that transition brings. Change is nothing to be AFRAID of.  Life is one huge learning experience that we have been blessed to receive. Make mistakes, question why you have always done the same things in life, and dare to do the opposite. Every chance that you get, I dare you to venture into the territory of self-improvement and betterment. Imagine if you could look your deepest fear in the eyes, and confidently and self-assuredly say “I have overcome you, and am looking forward to my future without you.”

I am about to encounter a huge CHANGE in my life, and I have had to face the challenge of overcoming my deepest fears and digging down deep into the core of who I am in order to break the cycle of self-negativity that I, and no one else, have caused. What do I mean by negativity? Pessimistic self-talk, doubt, and anxiety over new opportunities. I had to make the decision to no longer be a victim of my emotions or environment. My ultimate goal is to live in my own space of personalized authenticity, and to be an agent of change within my own self and as a result impact my environment through the energy that I exude.  I am continually making the decision to reside in a space of gratitude, joy, and love for others. Through books such as, “Heart of the Soul” by Gary Zukav; I am learning how to step outside of what I am feeling and to constantly operate in love and trust. A destination that allows me to take my personal power back, and to be my complete self in any circumstance. I have great expectations for my future, and I have transitioned my mindset to believe and prepare for the amazing people, experiences, places, and opportunities that are in store for ME.

A. Nicholson

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The Art of Fearlessness


As a woman of the twenty-first century, I am constantly bombarded with societal standards of feminine ideals. Beauty, physique, intellect, and let’s not forget the infamous title of a *Boss Chick*. A Boss Chick – a female whose game is on point ranging from her personal style to her bank account.  A woman who has the commanding presence of Phylicia Rashad, the business mogul mentality of Oprah Winfrey, the ravishing intellect and cleverness of Maya Angelou, and the fierceness of the uber-talented Beyonce’.  Through all of the “blueprints” of womanhood that are imposed by society and self-inflicted, it can sometimes be easy to lose sight of the ultimate goal- finding your own personal niche for happiness, joy, peace, and love.  In stating this, it is crucial to disclaim that no one has the same format for living a life of fabulousity. What matters is finding your personal sweet spot for abundance in all things positive and residing there.

I have only been on this earth for approximately twenty-three years, however based upon the life experiences that I have had, I can guarantee that imitating the personality or lifestyle of any other human being will not be your gateway to achieving your ultimate level of happiness and authenticity. I have found that embracing the individual that God has created me to be, has been my BEST decision EVER towards maximizing MY life. I have made the decision to live BOLDLY and with intent. I choose my thoughts, and allow my reality to align with the vision that I have crafted mentally. I refuse to be impacted by my environment; I am now a stimulus for change in my own life. It all begins and ends with my mentality and attitude. I have also realized the significance of learning how to identify factors within my life that are out of my control, and reassigning my time and energy to more malleable sources.  I now make an effort to live fearlessly, and I am unapologetic for my sound belief in entitlement for the basic factor of life…..JOY.

I believe that in order to be the best Woman that I can be, I must tap into my own space of power and freedom to be my complete self. This means stepping outside of the boxes of limitation, status quo, and comfort in order to become the person that I have always wanted to be, and live the life that I have always desired. I am willing to take the risk of putting myself out there, and welcome both the successes and detours that are associated with elevating myself towards a rejuvenating plateau of a life-altering breakthrough.

I have decided to share my journey with anyone who is open to learning about my experiences; in the past, present, and upcoming future. It is my goal to be a point of reference, insight, and inspiration to fellow young adults who want to live their life to the ultimate fullest. I have formulated 8 tips to help me along this life-long journey, and I have decided to share…

Develop a Solid Spiritual Foundation

There is a great sense of peace and comfort that comes when you surrender yourself to that of a higher power. The concept of knowing that your life is in the hands of a greater spirit that has ultimate control, is enough motivation to go full fledge for the desires of the heart. God wants the BEST for you, and He is more than capable of cosigning on all of your wants and needs, as long as it is within his will. “For I know the plans I have for you,” declares the Lord, “plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.,” Jeremiah 29:11.

 Make Sure You Are Taking Care of Self While In Pursuit of Your Goal

“Me-Time,” “Self-Nurture,” “Personal-Space,” Whatever you would like to call it, make sure you are doing it! Taking the time out of your day or week to set aside time for yourself is a huge requirement for anyone with a pulse, let alone seeking self-improvement. This time can be used for reflection or even relaxation; make sure that you are the number one person taking care of YOU. Set yourself at the top of your priority list, and allow all other objectives to follow.

Be Yourself

To live authentically it is fundamental to be genuine with yourself and the others around you. Adapting to one’s environment is very important in today’s society for the sheer purpose of communicating and connecting with others who are similar and different from who you are; however it is also important to not lose sight of the individual that you are, amongst the many roles that you may have.

Go For the Things That You Want In Life

Life is short, go for the things that you want in life and don’t look back. It is better to ask for forgiveness than permission while in the pursuit of one’s goals. Why???? Well sometimes when you wait around in search of a green light to go, most likely you will not receive one. In the majority of cases, people who have earned success initiated the first move, and the secondary steps thereafter- i.e. not waiting until they heard an “OK.” However, use caution and make decisions, steps, and first moves at your own risk.

Plan Ahead (and be strategic about it *Intentional*)

Live intently, “Write the vision and make it plain on tablets…,” Habakkuk 2:2. Make sure there is a reason behind every major thing that you do, and allow this reason to be associated with turning you into a better person – whether spiritually, intellectually, or financially. Don’t live a life in vain, because you will definitely regret it later. 

Live, Breathe, and Eat What You Want to Make Happen

Before anyone else can believe in your vision, you have to already make it a reality in your mind. Walk, Talk, and Incorporate your dream into your daily life. Wake up thanking God in advance for what you have already claimed as yours.  Moreover, start taking the necessary actions to ensure that your dream doesn’t just remain in the solitary confines of your mind.

Build A Solid Mentor Circle

As a twenty-something I know that many others have been in my exact footsteps prior to me being placed into a situation. I believe that it is absolutely ludicrous to not seek insight, guidance, and support from those who have been successful at achieving the same goals that I am attempting to conquer now. There is power in numbers, the more genuine mentors that you have, the more likely you are to be successful at reaching your vision- remember this is contingent upon the actual work that you put in!

Find A Staple Motivational Track to Remind You of the Goal at Hand

Lastly, find a go to anthem that you can listen to in times of victory and solace. Allow it to be a track that you can use to celebrate during major accomplishments; and one that you can listen to as a reminder of your goals during not so favorable moments on your journey towards happiness, joy, love, confidence, and dream conquering.  Be blessed, now Go!

© A. Nicholson, 2013-2013. All Rights Reserved.