Welcome to Self-Love

“There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.”

1 John 4:18


Love is the only universal medium of communication that I can think of that has the power to unite and heal the hearts of the broken and mishandled. Love at its most pure form is used to rebuild and cleanse. It is used to renew and strengthen. But in today’s society, it seems that we are a culture that lacks in this essential ingredient for peace and harmony. In a world where we are consumed with social media as our primary form of communication, we are growing farther and farther away from actual human interaction. As a result, this makes it harder and harder to cultivate meaningful relationships that transcend superficial barriers, to connect with the actual person within. In my opinion, in order to truly love someone it is crucial to put in the work and the effort to reach this connective ground. However, in a world where we constantly hide behind the illusion of Instagram filters – I can understand how it may be a bit of a task to reveal your true-self to another individual. The fear that is associated with being vulnerable, removing yourself out of your comfort zone, and being someone else’s open book, is quite intense – especially for me.

Conversely, a lack of vulnerability is a double-edged sword. On one end you are shielding yourself from the hurt and pain that other people may bring; however, you are also cutting yourself off from potential life-changing relationships that may have the possibility of advancing self-growth and happiness. Isolating a part or parts of yourself from others, in the long run, is only operating as a disservice to yourself. By closing yourself off, and not allowing others to get to know the REAL you (all of you), it only creates an additional façade that will have to be played into. In this space, it can be very isolating and lonely, because no one will truly know who you are….because you won’t let them.

I am deeply inspired by the author Sarah Jakes Roberts, and one of her quotes has helped me along my journey to authenticity and self-love, she states “Fear can not isolate you If you allow love to surround you.” The love that she speaks of can come from any source. God is love, and as a complex construct of our creator we all have a constant stream of love that radiates from us – whether we like it or not. To know that I have the greatest power EVER on my side, makes it possible for me to not be afraid to be vulnerable with others, and to allow them to get to know me. Since I know that God loves me, I have no reason not to love myself – no reason at all. God has accepted me. God has embraced me. God has covered me. This information inspires me to love others and to receive the love they have to give. If my desire is to expand my life-encounters for happiness, love, and joy, I have to put myself out there and not fear the outcome. When God guides, he will provide exactly what you need to succeed.


A. Nicholson

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Helped Are Those Who Help Themselves


“Helped are those who are content to be themselves; they will never lack mystery in their lives and the joys of self-discovery will be constant…Helped are those who forgive; their reward shall be forgetfulness of every evil done to them. It will be in their power, therefore, to envision the new Earth.” Alice Walker, Temple of My Familiar.

Within the last year I have made a conscious effort to expand my intellectual horizons, through reading a broader spectrum of books – including topics of: the progression of racism in America and its engrained political agenda, self-empowerment through the focus of the law of attraction and  the personal power of speaking life into the things that I will one day acquire, and marinating on theprivilege of being a woman and learning of the heavy multitudes of Nubian SHEROS that have interestingly been left out of history books and the timeline of mainstream feminism. It has been a period of great awakening and self-discovery. It’s quite intriguing how once you make the decision to seek a specific outcome or state, various resources and helping aids seem to jump out of the blue in order to help you to reach your goals; a point eloquently stated by Paulo Coelho, in his life-changing book The Alchemist, “And, when you want something, all the universe conspires in helping you to achieve it.”

At this point in time in my life, as a twenty-something with an attraction to personal success, higher education development, and wanderlust; I am centered on getting to know who I am, and what it is that I truly want out of life. A year ago I made the vow to myself to live fearlessly in authenticity, to take chances and risks, to live outside of my comfort zone. As a result, I realized how life can be positively magnified through attitude and choice. It is awesome to live in a state of authenticity, because it allows you to eliminate the multiple layers of figurative “make-up” that has been applied by society, and to filter out the residue of superficiality until you are left with mirror reflections of who you are, through the people that have remained. Furthermore, I also came to the conclusion that life is not about living without fear (per se), but making the deliberate decision to live in spite of it.

Another delectable tidbit that I learned on my journey to intellectual and spiritual awareness was the cleansing power of forgiveness. In order for me to live my BEST life, I realized that I had to release the baggage of my past, in order to open my heart, soul, and mind to the new opportunities of prosperity and abundance. Through the act of forgiveness, it gave me the chance to take back my personal power.

Each and every day I am inspired to life better, through a constant stream of motivation. It is my desire to positively expand in all the areas of my life. I desire to travel more, meet new interesting people, have once-in-a-lifetime incredible life experiences, and to acquire a PhD along the way. One thing that I know for sure is that life opens up when you do. I opt on a daily basis to live my life in boldness, and to walk towards the direction of my dreams and aspirations, because I can – its as simple as that.


A. Nicholson